Friday, November 30, 2012
There’s a saying that if you want something done, ask a busy person. They are more likely to finish the task. But as the one who is always being asked, are you finding it hard to say no?
I have to admit. Sometimes it’s easier to say yes. Sometimes I think, “OK, just this one thing” which always ends up being a series of more tasks. And the person doing the asking is just as busy as I am.
I’m not complaining about the fact that I have so much to do. I volunteer for things because I enjoy getting things done for a greater cause. I am, however, pulling out my “Thanks for thinking of me, but no” script. I have officially hit the limit of things I can get done without pulling my hair out.
Among my favorites, because they have the benefit of being true and appreciative:
• “Thank you for asking, but I have filled my calendar up for the fall and won’t be taking on anything new until my commitments are finished.”
• “That sounds like a wonderful opportunity, but it’s not one I can add to my plate right now. Have you considered NAME?”
• “You are so sweet to think of me. I might consider doing this next year, but I won’t be able to take this on right now.”
Do you have good responses to help moms say no when they’re overwhelmed? I need a couple more responses for my arsenal of “No, thanks.”
Reace Alvarenga-Smith is a Mom of two in the Dallas/Fort Worth area.