Tuesday, April 30, 2013

The Great Chore Challenge

My daughter turned nine this year and, in my family, that marks the beginning of doing chores to earn an allowance.

So, in keeping with tradition, we sat her down and talked about the entire concept; what chores she’d be responsible for, how much she’d earn per week, and overall expectations. I even explained that this would help her to have a more realistic understanding of what it’s like to have a job.

As with many new things, she started out with great enthusiasm and excitement. I demonstrated how to properly do dishes, sort laundry and vacuum. During it all, she paid careful attention, asked questions and seemed to be really engaged, but as soon as we were done, she burst into tears!

Feeling uncertain about how we got to tears, I asked her what was wrong. She responded by telling me that she was sorry for whatever she’d done wrong. I, in turn reassured her, that this was not a punishment, but in fact, it was an acknowledgement of what a big girl she is becoming. She seemed to buy this explanation, but still shows no enthusiasm for doing chores. I can’t say I’m surprised by this, but I am running out of ways to get her motivated to do them.

For several weeks, we’ve witnessed unprecedented pouting all due to chores. She has even tried to fake an illness a few times. Unfortunately for her, the dreaded chores won’t be going anywhere.

So, my question for all you moms out there, how do you get your children to do chores without things getting ugly?

Nikki Hall-Branch is a Sr. Public Relations Specialist for Texas Health Resources and very busy Mom of one.

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