Now I’m not naive enough to think that Lily would always stay my sweet little girl that worshiped her mother and never spoke anything out of character fit for a Disney princess. I am a little surprised, however, at how quickly her brain processes and some of the things she says. One thing about four (almost five) year olds: they are brutally honest!
A few cases in point: as I was dressing one day she commented that I should get that thing on television that lifts your buns and makes them tight (hmm… makes me wonder what Daddy was watching on TV, but I later learned it was an infomercial on the Brazilian Butt Lift.) Ouch! Although she hit the nail on the head (I could definitely use some toning) it doesn’t make it easy to hear that honesty from my four year old.
One weekend she accompanied me on a hunt for the perfect outfit to wear on a night out. My goal was to find something that made me look more like a lady and less like a Mommy. I’m sure everyone in the dressing room gasped or bit their tongues from laughing out loud when Lily loudly exclaimed, “that dress is too short,” and “those pants are too tiny for your booty.” O.M.G. I swore she’d never shop with me again.
Even my husband has received a few digs when she comments on his receding hairline, “Daddy how come you don’t have hair here and here?” As I said, as hard as it is to hear sometimes, usually what Lily says is the truth.
I’m working hard to teach her that although honesty is a wonderful quality and characteristic, you also have to be nice and not hurt people’s feelings (hint, hint: like Mommy and Daddy’s.)
How have you struck that balance with your children?
Mindy Seals works in the information technology division at Texas Health Resources and is balancing work, married life and raising two kids.